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The 4 Principles of Saying it right:
i.Keep it beneficial – this means what you’re saying is furthering the conversation or offering constructive critique in a format that will be appreciate.
ii.Keep it precise – this means saying what you mean and meaning what you say.
iii.Keep is present – this is about what is happening now, not lingering in the past or predicting the future (unless you’re in therapy!).
iv.Keep it personal – this means no gossiping about other people, talk about what is going on in your own purview.

Emotions aren’t inherently positive or negative. Here’s why:

They Serve Different Purposes: Emotions exist to signal our internal state and motivate us to take action. Fear, for example, urges us to avoid danger, while happiness might make us seek social connection.

Context Matters: The situation plays a big role. Sadness after a loss is perfectly understandable, but prolonged sadness could be a sign of depression. Likewise, anger can be a healthy response to injustice but destructive if uncontrolled.

Intensity Matters: The degree of an emotion matters more than its label. Feeling a bit anxious before a presentation can be helpful, but overwhelming anxiety can be debilitating.

So, how should we view emotions?

• As Signals: They tell us something about ourselves and the situation we’re in.
• As Guides: They can help us navigate challenges and opportunities.
• As a Spectrum: They exist on a range of intensity, and all emotions have a place.
 By understanding the nuances of emotions, we can better manage them and use them to our advantage.

Communicating Effectively: This is the most common meaning. It refers to expressing yourself clearly, concisely, and in a way that is appropriate for the situation and your audience. It’s about getting your message across effectively and avoiding misunderstandings.

Choosing the Right Words: This focuses on selecting the most accurate and impactful words to convey your thoughts and feelings. It involves considering factors like tone, formality, and potential emotional impact. There’s not always a single “right” way to say something. The best approach can vary depending on the context.

Saying the Right Thing at the Right Time: This goes beyond just the words themselves. It emphasizes the importance of timing and tact. Knowing when to speak up, when to hold back, and how to frame your message can be crucial.

Communication: “Saying it right” can also imply using constructive language. Focusing on solutions and being respectful, even in disagreements, can lead to more productive conversations. Effective communication is a skill that takes practice.

You never have to do it alone. There are people and books and ways. Finding a good coach is a great way to get started. Why not book a free 30 minute discovery call with me and lets begin our journey together right now.